How much control do you have over your self, really? If you see people backing up against the wall or avoiding any kind of confrontation or even contact with you, you might take this as a definite clue that your attitude needs a reality check. Your lesson of the moment is one of detachment so that you can actually "see" where you are going with these situations, both long and short term, and also so that you can take a few deep breathes before you launch another annihilation rocket and destroy all that you love and hold dear. Perhaps taking a timeout to think it out, before you "duke" it out, and being a bit more diplomatic and reasonable in your approach as well as your verbal attack mechanisms could keep the situation a bit more in your favor? It is said that children fight until they learn respect and through this negotiation, reason, and basically the ability to talk it out and reach an agreeable compromise, (note that I did not say "shout it out" that technique really only works in laundry detergents and generally not very well even there) Since you are reading this, I must assume that you are an adult, I know that you are having some real issues in almost all of the important areas of your life and change is inevitable no matter how you decide to try and ward it off or ignore the reality of this fact, you must understand that as individuals we have very little real control and that control is usually limited to our own personal decisions about "numero uno" and that the rest of the world will almost always rebel if you try too many times to rule or control it and then you wake up one day all alone, again. Since there is only one common denominator here, perhaps it is time to look in the mirror instead of outside and consider what your track record is personally, abuse in any form is intolerable behavior, long term it is totally unacceptable. Mental, verbal, soul crushing. Spiritual, this takes away all of the spontaneity and all of the fun in any relationship, it also violates all of the trust and that is a real part of sharing and creating anything. Emotional, this is also a matter of trust and how can you trust someone with the way you feel when at any given time they can and will use this knowledge against you to manipulate or threaten your security, this shatters any kind of relationship when compromised. Physical, I will not go into the many ways that this can happen as it is documented in all ways, I will just suffice it to say that just the threat of physical violence violates every single one of the other three that are listed before. Sometimes it is a matter of simply learning or relearning how to love oneself that is the problem and not what anyone else is or isn't doing. Think about this for a moment and see where you are on your security scale when it comes to really loving and respecting you. You need to allow people the space that they need to grow and understand that sometimes when you offer to "help" someone with their burdens that just maybe you have hidden (even from you) agendas or ulterior motives and that they know this and resent it and yes, even if they accept your help, because quite frankly they may not have any other option and of course it is both of your lessons to learn theirs is how to stand on their own two feet and learn how to say no, clearly and consciously and you so that you can learn how to detach and stand on your two feet as well. You see it is a two way street and both of you are in an area of slavery if you do not get this lesson. So help each other and then let go and get a new hobby or something. You may also need to find new challenges as far as the work sector is concerned as you may be bored with the constant mediocrity of your routine needing to learn new methods or perhaps a completely different job as this one may be more of an obligation than anything else, at any rate the amount of stress that is happening to the body/mind chemistry is not worth it and can lead to an over all physical/mental break down with complications like heart/lung/kidney/nervous disorders, operation or attacks. Do yourself a favor and consciously change your life in order to take better care of yourself or you will most likely be forced to do so simply because your body will make you by shutting down from the basic oppression. Get some exercise, dance, sing, go for a walk and interact with some different and positive people who have some real ideas and are moving and shaking the world, after all it may just all be due to the frustration of boredom and disenchantment and this can come from being disappointed in others so please stop that now and make a new rule that is not negotiable: I will always be true to my own happy. Blessed Be.